Tuesday, March 14, 2017

What does your team need?

I always wondered how some teams are successful and some are not. From outside, it looks like both the teams have same number of people with similar experience and profiles. So, what does one team lack than the other? I believe it is definitely the “Leadership” that makes the difference. You need a strong leader for any team. I am not even using the term “Manager” here as I think “Leader” is the better and more powerful word. All Leaders can be Managers but not all Managers can be Leaders.

A Leader is someone who trusts you, motivates you, encourages you, challenges you, empowers you, supports you, coaches you, guides you and someone you can look up to. I know I threw in a lot in the list, but each and every team member looks for these in their leader. Let’s talk through these qualities.

Trust 

This is certainly an important quality of a Leader. A true leader builds the trust with their team member during the course of building the relationship. And trust should be two-way as well. Leader should trust the team member and the team member should trust the leader too. This obviously takes time and energy. But having the mutual trust helps the relationship and takes it to next level.

Motivation 

Motivation is another important quality. Each team member gets motivated by a different factor. Identifying that motivation factor for each of your team member is really critical. If someone is motivated by a note of recognition or appreciation, providing that recognition in front of their peers motivates them better rather than taking them to a lunch privately. Some get motivated by money and there is nothing wrong with that. Those team members should be incentivized by giving a gift card or a free lunch. None of them need to be elaborate or expensive, but motivating the team members at the right time with the right factor is crucial.

Encouragement 

A true leader encourages the team members when they come up with new ideas or suggestions. Even if you believe it is not going to work, do not tell the team members directly rather ask more questions and make them think through their idea. Innovation within the team starts with an encouragement from a true leader. If the team member has no encouragement to do anything outside their job responsibilities, there is not anything new in the team and no innovation occurs.

Challenge 

Each team member has their own strengths and a strong leader identifies that and challenges them accordingly. Some get excited to be challenged on their strengths and some get excited to be challenged to work on their weaknesses as the opportunity of growth. Both allow the team members to learn and grow. This is one of the key things that a true leader needs to focus on.

Empowerment 

True leaders empower their team members to achieve more. They understand that they need a strong team for the greater accomplishments. True leaders get excited when they identify a leader in the team and they never get worried about the competition.

Coaching 

True leaders act as a coach to their team. They are readily available to guide and support in the right direction anytime. They create a mentor/mentee relationship with the team members and be successful with it. They understand that they are also learning from the coaching relationship.
True leaders understand that the team members look up to them. They talk, behave and do things the way they want the team members to do as well. They are honest and trustworthy to their team members.

True Leaders strive to excel as a role model.

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

2016 – A Year to Forget

I think this is one of the year that I would want to forget and move on in my life. Lot of heart aches, disappointments and embarrassments. Learnt lot of lessons, but still trying to figure out how to overcome and implement them going forward.

I have learnt multiple lessons throughout this year in a real hard way.

Empathy – I figured out that both my strength and weakness is Empathy. I can easily put myself in others’ shoes and relate to anyone’s feelings and thoughts quickly and I can read people easily. This is surely a great asset to anyone and for me it is like a curse as I worry about others all the time. I worry about others’ feelings and thoughts when they are least bothered about me. This quality is certainly an asset at work but a curse personally. People take advantage of my empathy and misuse it.

Unconditional Love – This is the year where I figured out there is nothing called unconditional love in this world. According to me, it does not even exist. Anyone can disagree, but in the reality, that is 100% true. People who disagreeing with me will figure this out at some point in their life like I did now. Any relationship that you have – be it a friend or a family, there is always something underlying.

God’s way – Whenever we are in trouble, we pray to God. Not everyone but surely most of us. I do not think we ever go to a temple to say thanks to God for whatever he gave us. But we go and ask him whenever we need something or to be fixed. The interesting thing is God has a strange way of handling your requests and needs. Either he helps you or creates another problem/worry that is larger than your current request/need. In that way, you forget about your ask and start worrying about your new problem. I experienced it too this year.

I had gone through (still going through) personal crisis in 2016. I have been hibernating for the last few months with all these crises and there are 2 things that is close to my heart which kept me going. First - My work – I started a new job in Feb, but took over extra responsibilities and enjoying the challenges, made some new friends at work and hiring more team members as usual. Second – My Dance – I performed few different dances in the last couple of months for my dance school as well as choreographed one to perform with friends. That practice sessions helped me a lot to relax. People who interacted with me on these fronts would not have noticed any change in me. I was being myself at my work and my dance.

I am really thankful that I have an outlet to put my energy and focus into. I would surely advise any of you who reads this to get a hobby where you can have your own me-time. It really helps us.

I am also thankful to 2 of my cousins who reached out to me (immediately within couple of days) asking whether I am ok and/or need any help. It was really nice of them.

I certainly need my personal time to think. My husband and kids are doing a decent job J and also letting me do my dance adjusting their schedules. Not sure how long I can stretch it, but it is a great opportunity for me to dance at this point of life. I can do it only because of them.

With all these confusions, the 3rd thing I still follow is lighting the lamp in my pooja room every day and tell a sloka. Not sure whether anything is going to change soon, but I do not want to give up.

Life circumstances are so relative and each one prioritize their problem in a very different way. Money is not the only happiness in the world, I tell my team members all the time that someone can make 30K and be happy in their life and someone could make 100K and be unhappy in their life. That’s 200% true. Money cannot bring or buy happiness for anyone in this world. Living in a rich country, driving a luxury car, having a great job does not equate to happiness.
There are tons of people who do not care about anyone else but themselves. I think they lead a better life as they do not worry about how others feel or what others want. They just lead their own selfish life.

This was an opportunity for me to realize how would other people react or reach out in difficult times. Whomever I empathized all the time did not care or worry about what happened, rather they were worried about how my hibernation affected them. I do not have the courage to love or trust anyone anymore.

Gist - I trusted everyone, empathized with anyone and expected the same from everyone around me. Which I know is really stupid, but it took this long for me to understand that my expectations are not practical. I need to change my expectations which in turn I need to change my behavior too. I am kind of disconnected from my personal world and using this time to reinvent myself and understand how to focus my energy and empathy going forward.

Few things that I learnt -

  •          Have a hobby/interest.
  •         You do not have control on others’ behavior. You have control only on how you react to it.
  •          Do not expect anything from anyone. Period.
  •          Just do your duty and move on.

Hope the New Year makes me wiser!