Can a Friendship Change?

Last week’s discussion in Neeya Naana was about girls having boys as “Friends” and how their family sees that and handles that. On one side, all girls were there and on the other side their family was there. Most parts of the discussion were healthier and I even liked the panel member’s views from Vennila and Abhilash. It is always good to hear different perspectives. The way, other people see things different than us – seems very interesting and fulfilling to me these days. I started feeling like I am learning more and more every day. I was in girls school from 6^th to 12^th standard. But was in co-education in college. I always had some boys as “Friends” throughout my life through tuition, through other friends, college, work etc. I never hesitated to introduce them to my family and never was scared about it.

After hearing all the discussions last Sunday, the only thing that came to my mind was, do I ever miss any one of my friends now? The immediate thought was “Yes, I do miss one of my best friend” and he is Gopi Sambandam. I mentioned it to my husband Vijay with a very sad tone. It’s not that I don’t talk to Gopi now. We still catch up sometimes (rarely) and update each other. But I think I miss the friendship which we had before. Not sure whether he does miss too. But it is very unfortunate that I don’t talk to him as much as I did before. There are quite a number of things (in my life) which I would have shared or asked or discussed with him, but all those thoughts/things remained unspoken & unshared L.

I really do miss his Friendship, but will TREASURE the memories forever.

Things changed, Priorities changed, Our Lives changed and sadly Our Friendship also changed.

On a lighter note, I want to mention about Suresh here. He was with us in the Engineering first year at Velammal Engineering College only for few months. He then took a transfer and moved to Crescent Engineering College. I just knew him only for few months, but I still have special kind of friendship with him. His birthday is on Nov 17^th and for some strange reason, I remember that every year and call him to wish him Happy Birthday. We don’t talk to each other almost the whole year, but I always remember his Birthday & on Nov 17^th I call him for sure J. I think I am doing that for more than 10 years except 1 or 2 years when I went to India.