Friday, July 1, 2016

Cup Psychology

The detail that I am going to talk about could happen in almost all houses in various subtle ways. But I still wonder whether the human beings with XY chromosomes could identify and recognize this easily. And I am sure my dear husband will never ever have a clue about this J.

Whenever I am angry with my husband or in disagreement with him, the way I give his morning coffee/tea changes. I have 3 different kind of coffee mugs at my home. One is made of Corelle and of Indian cup size and looks very cute. The Second one came with my Corelle dinner set and it is little heavier than the first one. And I have the third set, which is the heaviest of all and this was our baby sprinkle return gift to our friends during my 2nd pregnancy. I kept one set for myself as a remembrance and we started using it recently.

So, based on my mood and how I feel about him that morning the cup changes. 
  • If I am in a very happy mood and really think my husband is my best friend who understands me, I will give coffee/tea in cute Corelle cup (first set).
  • If I am not in a happy mood and have some disagreements with my husband, I will give my coffee/tea in the Cup from the heavier second set.
  • If I am completely annoyed, I will give coffee/tea in the heaviest cup from the third set.

I just think that it is a way for me to express how I feel. I know he does not have any idea or a clue about why I use different cups, but if any time he reads this blog post he will know.

We live far away from our family and it is us who has to go through good and bad in our family life, we cannot bring in our extended family into everything. We fight, disagree and then just move on. I am not saying we are the perfect couple, we are not even close. Comparatively we have more conflicts and disagreements than a normal couple but we both know to give space to each other. We kind of got adjusted to respect each other as a person. I have my space and time for my hobbies, interests and my girly time with my friends. And at the same time, he gets time for his hobbies, interests, his boy time with his friends, his own whatsapp group with his childhood friends etc.

Over the years, we kind of learnt “Agree to Disagree”.

One thing to notice is, Coffee/Tea is always provided irrespective of my mood J.

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